Good Luck, Babe!

Capricorn New Moon + January's Aquarius Astro

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

I recently re-watched The First Wives Club, a movie overloaded with abandoned aging women cliches but accurate of cis-het male who step out of the union when tired of their wives. Men who build livelihoods off spouses’ labor ~then discard when same-old married life becomes humdrum~ have a special place in Hell. As a recent queer divorcee, I can say my experience with a conflict avoidant where blaming their spouse for their own infidelity was easily a Sisyphean mind-fuck, running up that hill to only fall down again… and doing it alone. Until friends stepped up with legal knowledge and emo-regulation advice, I felt helpless. It was life-changing to be supported in my divorce; I just had to get over myself and ask for help. And help was all around me when I actually attempted to pay attention to my surroundings.

Beware of a partner that does not think relationships take work OR that conflict means a relationship does NOT work. That person lives in La-La Land.

The reality of dissatisfaction is inevitable with ALL married couples no matter what adventurous arrangement they have. Co-habitating brings routine and responsibility… that is just a fact no matter the funds involved. Disagreement and disappointment will dim the spark and balancing career, care-taking and children (or fam and friends) brings burnout to the doorstep and into the marital bed where sleep is favored over sex. The home holds everything: our bad moods, our grief, our pain. For some it is easier to start anew with an ego-boosting romance outside the relationship instead of working together. What is it to be the “other woman” securing a partner who is still married? Do they wonder if the same fate won’t befall them in the end? Can you trust a partner who has lied to their “most sacred” person while dating you?

Wives “Other Women”: Marcia Gay Harden Cancer Rising, Sarah Jessica Parker Capricorn Moon, Elizabeth Berkley Cancer Venus & Mercury

Funnily enough, the IRL paramour who interjected in the marriage was a little of each “other women” in the film: psych-posturing-purity, pampered princess of physical enticement, Leo-esqe entertainer. The trio of First Wives (4 counting the old friend whose suicide brings them together) are all betrayed by being left for another woman, but the root-rot underneath the affairs is much more nasty. The lack of confrontation that leads to the husbands’ astray acceleration is based in an unwillingness to uphold the commitment AND to let problems “slide” with no attempt to be upfront about percolating issues. Dishonesty about dissatisfaction makes any marriage a sham; compromise is vital to the curve-balls we deal with in life ~whether it be individually OR together~ but especially in a promised commitment. You can’t compromise if you don’t bring your wants and needs to the table.

“When would he realize that it wasn't his infidelity I couldn't bear, but his cowardice?” ― Tatiana de Rosnay

Resulted anger from spousal betrayal catches up to even “the nice ones” i.e. the people-pleasing pushover of Diane Keaton’s role (RIP to a Capricorn Sun, Venus & Vesta icon) whose character’s separation irked me most. Keaton’s golden-heart’d strides to be the best wife she can and communicate for the better within couple’s counseling back-fired as her husband cheated with the therapist. Calm acceptance as an expectation to surprise deceit was too close to home in my re-watch. While Wives debuted in 1996, 30 years ago, what relevance it holds to show mascs blaming fem-partners for natural reactions to some serious bullshit! And in the age of abusers and fuck-boys using therapy terms to skirt accountability and to control the narrative to protect their selfish interest, the subject of manipulation within pop-psych is one I’ll be exploring often in my 2026 entries.

WHAT: Capricorn New Moon

WHEN: Sunday January 18th, 2026 2:52 PM EST

THEME: You’re Standing Face to Face With I Told You So

What I loved about the First Wives Club dynamic as a new divorcee was the fantasy of actually receiving justice AND being set up for a new future with the help of friends. How the characters collaborated on a multi-faceted plan to achieve each wife in building a new foundation required a willingness to hear each other’s perspective. Imagine Diane Keaton as Capricorn Mercury, Bette Midler as Capricorn Mars and Goldie Hawn as Capricorn Venus. Together they transformed each other’s pain by turning the tables on their astray husbands in a strategic manner. In this process, Keaton’s over-explaining character found her voice; Midler found the weak spots in her hubby’s business and made cut-throat deals with her son’s future in mind; Hawn got over being devalued as the aging wife AND actress, leveraging her financial contributions to her husband’s lavish lifestyle by funding the trio’s dream to create a women’s community center.

No surprise that this movie was remade for TV starring Jill Scott (Cancer Rising) and Michelle Buteau.

Midler’s character (South Node & Midheaven Cap) wants revenge more than anyone in the group but is also the most honest re: how hard it is for each wife to not receive the respect they deserve (and a testament to Mars as a positive personal planet when optimized). The manipulation men craft to access women’s labor compared to the aggressive weaponization of money in the divorce process is all-telling of how femmes are treated as disposable. I personally could have beat myself over similar treatment but thru the support of friends and family I now view my divorce as a reclamation and return to myself. While I don’t love New Year’s resolutions, the Capricorn New Moon reveals the power in Winter as an introspective future-percolation to steer ourselves to better places within solid mindsets. (Fun note: elder socialite who guides the 1st Wives Maggie Smith had a Cap Sun, Mercury & Venus.)

The 1st New Moon of 2026 looks at our struggles from the top of a mountain peak with fresh eyes.

Suddenly the view looks different and our purpose for more authenticity is impassioned, better blessed when shared. Despite the ways in which situations have stood in our way or hurt our self-worth, we are now looking forward to what we want to accomplish in the next 6 months and the old narratives must be left behind. Knowing we have to be discerning about what we invest our energy into, our priorities are not just external but personal. Calculations around what is and isn’t in our control comes into sharper focus AND we have to hold ourselves accountable to not straying back to sadness or beating down closed doors. Earth and Water Signs will percolate in understanding while Fire and Air might feel a little stagnated though could use a pause to think. This is a prime planting of New Moon seeds.

With so many personal planets in Capricorn, clarity with values and the high road in mind hold us for strategizing our next chapter.

• The Capricorn New Moon trines Uranus in Taurus (who is also soon wrapping up their time in the Planet). The combo of Earth is grounding in a sense but Uranus shakes up everything! This trine does encourages a step out of comfort zones into a pathway towards independence.

• Saturn and Neptune are at the end of their time Pisces, forming a sextile, is giving a “get real” but also “dream big” harmony expanding our possibilities. I’m currently moving and to sell our marital home ~a truly destabilizing life transition amid financial distress~ though leaning into Saturn-Neptune by doing a little bit everyday HAS gone a long way for me. Discipline is my daddy right now and I’m wet for the lessons.

• On January 19th, Venus Aqua and Sun, Moon, Mars, Mercury Capricorn conjunct Pluto Aquarius disintegrating an old perspective or even structure that needs to be let go of in our personal life with these personal bodies. Not negative but can include grief. As per each New Moon, giving space to sit with difficult feelings is key as we don’t want to carry them with us into new pastures in a negative way.

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January’s Aquarius Season Astrology:

• 1/19/26 Aquarius Season begins, 1/20 Mercury enters Aquarius & 1/21 the duo form a conjunction fore some lively Water-Bearer philosophizing to the forefront. Even more communal in flavor, on 1/22 Mercury and Pluto in Aquarius conjunct for power-moves, perhaps some first steps for plans conjured during the Capricorn New Moon. Ensure your intentions are pure. No murky water for the town wishing well, please!